A "BULLYING EXPERT" TALKS ABOUT "BULLYING EXPERTS"
First off, I have NEVER called myself a bullying expert. However, I have (1) researched bullying for over 16 years, (2) traveled nationally throughout 45 states for over 40 years in schools, corporations, communities and churches doing bullying presentations and professional development with emphasis on research that reduces the effects, (3) in 2011 received my PhD in educational research and did my dissertation on the elements of successful anti-bullying programming...So What?
WHO'S GOING TO FEED US TOMORROW?
Many years ago while working with a church in Raleigh, NC, I was so moved by the growing number of homeless people in the area that, along with some informed, compassionate members we decided to sponsor a “feed the homeless” event. It would ideally serve at least two purposes; meet the need of homeless people and raise the awareness among our community, especially our youth who, for the most parts...More
FOLLOW DA WEEDER
One of my most cherished moments was the day my daughter graduated from pre-school (apparently she had passed all her pre-school classes and had enough credits)! I was home for a few days from my work travels, able to plan and attend the events of that momentous occasion. My wife informed me of the timeframe: pick my daughter up at 12 noon accompanied by my one-year old son and we could do whatever we wanted until 5:15 pm, when we would rendezvous for supper at Chuck E. Cheese. Got it!Continue
AN ANTI-BULLYING APP?
In 2000 before there was a deluge of anti-bullying incidents being reported, before every national and local news resource published and republished the tragic stories and eye-opening realizations, I was knee-deep in national and global research perusing this new, yet aged issue of bullying. My emphasis was NOT more drama, but explication. I started with the WHY. Why do people bully other people? You would think that once someone had become a victim of bullying, no matter how extreme or insignificant, it would be enough of a deterrent to prohibit them from choosing to reciprocate in the same. However, the history...Read On
ARRANGED BIRD MARRIAGES MAKE BAD PARENTING
With a headline like that, one can’t help but be curious, as was I. In a recent study from the Max Planck Institute for Ornithology in Seewiesen, Germany, researchers took zebra finches, which choose mates for life and paired them up at random to see what the results might be. Here are results condensed or should I say “on the fly”?There's More
STEP-PARENTING MORE DIFFICULT THAN PARENTING?
Last week we briefly looked at the negative, even demeaning usage of “step” when referring to stepparents, stepchildren, step-grandchildren (where do stepmother-in-laws fit in?!!). I received some encouraging responses, though many didn’t feel comfortable sharing publicly, respectful of family privacy. This week, we want to dig deeper and consider the inevitability of parenting as a (here we go again)…stepparent. CAN ANYBODY THINK OF A MORE ENDEARING PHRASE SO WE CAN OFFICIALLY VACATE THIS "STEP" THING??? Is it possible? Step parenting is more challenging than parenting? Since over two-thirds of you is the subject matter, and the other third is curious, here’s what you’ll find...Read More
YOU SAVED ME, MR. BANKS!
I’m always telling people about the heart-warming stories related to bullying survivors, who have been empowered by our work. Meet Sydney, a 14-yr old who wrote this letter. About seven years ago in elementary school, she had to deal with some ruthless bullying from her “so-called” friend. It was destroying her self-esteem and compromising the educational process. Also, around that time the school had brought Jay Banks Productions in for some STAMP Out Bullying programs (now I AM UNAFRAID). What happens next makes me proud and keeps me humble.Read Sydney’s letter